Things You Should Know!

1. I want you to have fun. I know that most of you want to be “forced” into submission, and while that is fun, it can be even more exciting if we chat about what kinks you are into and not into.

2. Your nervousness is charming, but really not necessary. Maybe it’s just me, but I adore the sight of a man who’s slightly shaking and stumbling over his words. Lol. I’ve done this a lot, and my goal is not to make you feel uncomfortable. I understand this can be nerve-wracking—walking in, stripping, and trusting me with your body. My goal is to make you as comfortable as possible. That being said, don’t think I’m going to let your nervousness get in the way of me having a good time. After all, you’re here for my pleasure, slut.

3. I don’t have a preference for age, race, personality, stamina, body type, physical abilities, lifestyle, or other characteristics. Really, I mean it. I don’t have any sort of preference or leaning toward one ‘type’ of person or another when it comes to my subs. Don’t think you need to ‘perfect’ yourself before you offer up your body for play. You’re wonderful just as you are! All should ask for a session, but special welcomes to men of color and LGBT folks.

4. Bring Your Ideas! If you’re new, I don’t expect you to know exactly what you want, but having an idea of where to start is good. This will help me map out our time together. This can be done before a session on Zoom or during a session—just let me know! As you become a regular client, you can totally suggest new ideas as you explore your own kinks.

5. I enjoy your connection, but I am only your Domme professionally. Unless I’ve personally invited you into my private world, just remember that you’re initially soliciting me for my ability to expand your horizons—on a professional level. You responded to my advertisement and chose me based on my looks, my offerings, and my presentation—not for my personality or life goals (and we know this). As your trust and relationship deepen, just remember to keep your feet on the ground. It’s entirely natural to feel devoted and personal with any Dominatrix, but never forget that you didn’t meet me on eHarmony. While I am single in my real life and open to dating, I will let you know if that is something I want to pursue. I should not have to explain why something ‘further’ might not be possible, so just keep your expectations in perspective.

6. Keep it Clean. As far as toys, they are covered by a condom and cleaned after by the sub that has used them. This is to prevent transmission of STDs. I always play safe and get tested every two months. As a Domme, I am rarely penetrated by a real penis. I much prefer to tease my subs using toys of mine and mostly make them do it for me. I do not perform oral sex on my subs, and they are lucky to get a small kiss from me at the end. From that, you should feel very safe keeping yourself clean.

7. I want you to stay focused and in the moment. You can check your phone, talk about your kids/work, or mentally plan your grocery list any other time… but not with me. Don’t be surprised, offended, or disappointed if I try to keep your head in the game and stray away from discussions that don’t have to do with the naughty fun I’m trying to share with you. This is MY time; unless there’s an emergency, everything else can wait.

8. I can keep a secret, can you? In all instances, what I do requires secrecy. It’s not a request—it’s a stone-cold demand. I’m not thrilled that you’re cheating on your significant other if that’s the case, but consider my lips sealed!

9. But you still need to be cautious. This should be obvious, but please don’t save my number to your phone under any obvious name. I can play ‘dumb’ about who you are, no problem, but I really don’t want to deal with an upset, curious, questioning, or threatening individual. I keep pepper spray and a taser—don’t let wifey get caught up with me.

10. To John, Mark, and Mike, Cool name, but I don’t remember names. You know how many Mikes are in my phone? Too many. Please be open about your face. Again—your privacy is my concern for your safety and mine. I need to see your face to: 1. Have a connection with you, and 2. Remember who the fuck you are. I don’t mind using a fake name, but be upfront about your face. It’s in your best interest. Even if I know you from a previous life, be open about it. Makes it more fun to exploit your personal trauma for my giggles.

11. Use your time however you’d like. Most of my sessions are three-four hours long. Most guys want to chat after, and I love the after-care sessions. If you want to just talk for two hours and enjoy my company, I’m game.

12. Canceling Your Appointment. If I need to cancel your appointment, I will let you know in a timely manner. I expect the same of you. If you are feeling too nervous or scared, it’s okay to step back, cancel, and reschedule for when you’re ready. But don’t cancel 15 minutes before go-time. And don’t expect your deposit back.

13. My compliments can be genuine! If I say something, I mean it. So many of my subs have confidence issues—sometimes I think you need to hear my compliments!

14. I don’t judge. As long as you’re a gentleman, what you say, how you act, and what you enjoy isn’t going to change my view of you at all. If you’re a day-to-day, 9-5, well-polished professional businessman and/or family man, I’m not going to see you differently when you tell me you like to be diapered and tied in an exposing position. You can be all of those wonderful things with a vibrant erotic life. That’s totally okay! Your kinks don’t define you as a person.

15. I can only read what you express. Have you ever wondered how a Mistress always seems to do just the right thing at just the right time? It’s because I tend to play with very emotive partners—and I LOVE when you’re responsive! Make a little noise; help me read you! But if you make too much, I have a gag.

16. I Don’t Mind! Not every sub I see knows definitively whether or not they’re actually kinky. I won’t be bored with your questions or hesitance! But don't waste my time—gifts and tributes are expected when I’m giving information that Google can provide you.

17. I am proud of you, I care about you. While all of this stays professional for the safety and sanity of everyone involved, I genuinely enjoy my visitors and regulars. I look forward to your visits, and I think of you (or rather what I’d like to do to you) when you’re not here. You are more than just a list of visitors—you’re my kinky friends and pervy pets, and I’m thankful for your existence.

-Mistress M